Key Takeaways: Pitching, pushing, convincing, or trying to get someone to see things a certain way doesn’t work. When pressure is applied, people tend to push back. Instead of pushing ideas onto others, focus on drawing out their thoughts and feelings. Release attachment to the outcome. The more you are able to avoid fixating on the outcome, the more likely you can achieve it. Also, set aside personal agendas. Remove anything that might distract from your main goal which is to make people feel seen and heard. Ask questions, and understand the other person’s perspective. Listen without trying to fix, solve, or argue against their points. Validate what has been shared and then ask if thoughts can be shared from a personal perspective. Continuous validation and feedback without judgment are key. The key is to give people the sovereignty to make an empowered choice, leaning into what they want. Although it may seem counterintuitive, the more this approach is used, the more likely others will choose the desired outcome because they feel in control. “Our job is not to push into people. Our job is to pull out.” “Rejection is protection.” “The less you want something, the more likely you are to have it.” - Maryanne Dersch Ask for and receive all you want, need and deserve without feeling rejected, ineffective, or pushy. Learn to manage your mindset, lead yourself and others more effectively and have the meaningful conversations that drive your most important work. Get your free starter kit today at www.theinfluentialnonprofit.com Connect with Maryanne Dersch: https://www.courageouscommunication.com/connect
Key Takeaways:
“Our job is not to push into people. Our job is to pull out.”
“Rejection is protection.”
“The less you want something, the more likely you are to have it.”
- Maryanne Dersch